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Spring 2000 The
INNERLIFE Partners in Caring Since 1985 The Cry of Anguish Evon Flesberg "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from helping Me, from the workds of my groaning? O my God, I cry by day, but you do not answer, and by night, but find no rest." (Ps. 22:1-2 NRSV) The echoes of this psalm draw us forward through the Lenten season toward Jesus' cry of God forsakenness on Good Friday's cross and the glorious "Alleluias" of Easter Sunday. It is in the midst of the cries of anguish and alleluias of hope that we live. Cries of anguish surround us in the Good Friday world. In this world, six or sixteen year old children shoot their classmates, two thirds of this world starves and one third is on a perpetual diet, and in this world bored millionaires become depressed when the stock market is off a few points while others watch their children slaughtered for the sake of oil. Our own throats are raw from "words of groaning." Crises of trauma and of life cause us to shout out to God - "Why have you forsaken me?" I do not
know what cries of anguish are filling your ears or heart, but I do know
that we need to be able to express our pain and suffering to live. Dorothee
Soelle, in her book entitled Suffering, asserts that it is necessary for
those who suffer to speak on their own behalf: Those who are suffering the upheaval of the death of a child, chronic illness, incest, rape, domestic violence, joblessness, retirement, or the loss of a partner, find it difficult to put into words the depth and breath of their agony. It is our privilege at the Pastoral Counseling Centers of Tennessee, Inc. to be present to those who struggle to express their pain and are searching for hope. Without the opportunity to express that which is causing suffering, there is little possibility of change. Soelle continues, "Without the capacity to communicate with others there can be no change. To become speechless, to be totally without any relationship, that is death." We are here to listen and to help you, or those you know who are suffering, express that which grips you deep within. Dr. James Hofrening observed that "We are an Easter people in a Good Friday world." Easter people know the comfort of having one's suffering borne and the promise of life with hope. Recommended
Reading:
The
Power to Bless The congregation's power to bless is a source of great hope to people. So many people need to be blessed. The greatest
power in primitive religion is the power of "curse." This power
remains with us . . . . [People] seem to look for some high place of office,
influence, or notoriety from which they can hurl the destructive word
upon their enemies.The new thing in religion came with Abraham - the "blessing"
and the intent of God to bring blessing upon all the families of the earth. The isolation, hostility, rejection, and fear we see is often present because some curse is having its way on a soul. Curses are difficult burdens. A seventy-year-old man speaks of his father's death when he was eleven years old. It is an intense story-even today-as he recounts standing in the fog with his mother and siblings as the house and all their possessions were auctioned for necessary funds. He makes a promise: "This will never happen to me again." He launches a journey filled with a thousand successes, but his need to create security through acquisition and over-functioning simultaneously opens a large hole in his soul. His choice of a defense against his loss blesses him with success, but curses him with isolation. He has never been poor, except in the accounting of love, where he suffers every day in his fear to place trust in another. Must he be cursed? Of course not! Our benevolences are revealing. We will give food to this eleven year old and his family. We will contribute rental payments for housing. We will join neighbors to get the children in school. In doing so, we would rightfully bless this family. In the shaping of a soul, however, the management of the whole of things too easily gets confused. This man "would pay" anything to experience an enduring love. Yet love is not a commodity that is bought and sold. It is a relationship to be experienced. We pastoral counselors see this challenge as one of developmental fixation, but we also see this man's challenge as the journey of the soul to be free. Yes, the religious community blesses by providing food. It supports better housing. It advocates for good healthcare. And it bears witness to every soul's yearning to fully live and love. And just because one is cursed by circumstance, decision, and environment, one has not heard the last word. The final word is one of blessing. "The Lord bless and keep you. The Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. The Lord lift up us his countenance upon you and give you peace." (Num. 6:24-26) National
Mental Health Month United
Way Giving A Partner Congregation contributes to the open door policy of the center to serve all persons and provides care and counseling for their members and persons their staff members refer without charge. A Member Congregation contributes to a center's open door care by pledging regular contributions at or above a level set according to the congregational budget. A Supporting Congregation makes regular contributions to the mission of reaching all who come. At the Member Congregation contribution level begins at $600 for a congregation whose budget is $100,000 or more and extends to $6,000 and up for a congregation whose budget is $900,000 or more. One third of the Centers budget comes from contributions. Please consider giving at the Partner or Member Congregation level in the coming year. Our congregations' support is the lifeblood for caring and these gifts empower us to bless all who come for counseling, psychotherapy, and support. Through our congregations generosity we provided over 7,600 counseling sessions in 1999. Of this number, over forty percent (40%) paid fees in the $0 to $30 range. Over seventy-five percent (70%) were subsidized at some level. Thank you for your support of the Pastoral Counseling Centers of Tennessee, Inc. We appreciate the opportunity to serve our people and give thanks for our congregations' generous support. WE ARE PARTNERS IN CARING! Pastoral
Care Specialist Program Graduates Memorial
and Honor Roll Notes New
Center To Open National
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